Psychologist or a friend?
A person is a social creature and as every social creature people need communication. We all develop in society and since childhood we make friends with other people and sometimes friends met in childhood follow us during all our life.
One of the most important natural needs of a person is a necessity to talk to someone and to tell all person's preoccupations and feelings. And very often our friend is a person who listens to us and gives us recommendations. And such private talks help us to keep fit and to be healthy mentally. If a person keeps all problems and troubles in his/her mind and doesn't talk to anybody it may influence a person's mental health.
According to psychologists people need to talk about their problems because after such talks they feel better. And of course a friend may advise something really useful or sometimes even solve the problem.
Of course modern world is filled with troubles and problems and the necessity to talk to someone about problems becomes more and more popular. And psychologists appeared to satisfy this necessity. Psychologists listen carefully to their patients and help them.
But it happens very often that friends become our free psychologists. Friends are ready to get up at 4 in the morning and to get to another part of the city because you broke up with a boyfriend/girlfriend. And a friend will listen to you, will help you and will try to conceal you.
But nowadays it is very difficult to find a friend that will listen to you and all your talks. The problem is that every person has thousands of their own troubles that preoccupy people and they simply don't want to borrow their heads listening the problems of others. And we can't blame them.
According to psychologists when a person listens to the problems of other people all the time, they start to feel worse and their mood is always dull. This is the influence of worries about the others. The negative energy that people express during these moments gets to people who are listening to them. So as you may see, not everybody is ready to risk his/her health for sake of other people.
But these problems won't preoccupy a true friend. A true friend will simply help his/her friend.